The Characteristics of Love

1.    LOVE EVERYONE

The first characteristic of Christian love is to reach out to all. It requires to love everyone as God does, without distinction, without discrimination.
“But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, so that you may be children of your Father in heaven; for he makes his sun rise on the evil and on the good ,and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous.  (Mt. 5:44-45) . Loving everyone starts in loving our neighbor, right now.  As Christians we are to love not with some platonic or idealized love but with a practical love, in a concrete and effective way right now.  Because charity is a participation in the agape of God so we are able to go beyond the limits of natural love, by loving even  our enemies and laying down our life for our brothers and sisters

2.    BE THE FIRST TO LOVE

 In this love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son to be the atoning sacrifice for our sins.  (1Jn 4:10)

If we are to love like God and develop the capacity to love which God has placed in our hearts we must love as he does.  He does not wait for us to love Him but has always in countless ways  shown us that he is the first to love us regardless of our response .  Because we were created to be a gift to one another, when we reach out to others even without any sign of love on their part , we are just being faithful to our true selves. In imitation of God who loved us so much we   also have  to love one another , “beloved since God loved us so much, we also ought to love one another ( 1Jn.4:11)    .Christian love brings us to live the commandment of love in a radical way.   It leads us to BE THE FIRST TO LOVE. Without waiting for the other to love, we take the initiative to love the other person. It leads our heart to love  the least lovable: the poor who because of their poverty cannot repay us in return, (Lk.14:13-14), to whoever in our home, in our workplace, or in our school who need   mercy and forgiveness , attention, care and concern. To be able to do this , it is important to approach everyone with new eyes, not remembering any faults or defects but to cover these with love, forgiveness and mercy. Just like God who forgives and forgets.

3.    LOVE AS YOU LOVE YOURSELF

“Love your neighbor as yourself” (Mt. 19:19)
Another well-known characteristic of love is expressed  in  (Lk. 6:31) “Do to others as you would have them do to you” . If this alone were practiced, it would be sufficient to make the whole world a great family .This is the so called “ Golden Rule” which  Gandhi translated to mean as “ You and I are one,I cannot injure you without harming myself”.  The gospel says, “Love your neighbor as yourself” (Mt. 19:19)  This command of Jesus puts us in constant tension, because by nature, we love ourselves, it is beyond our nature. But because of the gift of charity  which is divine and which we receive , we can really love others. We can love with a Christian love which enable us of  truly giving comfort to our neighbors as we would have ourselves comforted.

4.    MAKE YOURSELF AS ONE

                             “ I have become all things to all.” (1 Cor. 9:22)
 How can  true love for others be put into practice? The answer  is to Make Yourself One . To make yourself one with others means  making their thoughts and problems your own ,sharing in their joys and sufferings, celebrating in their joys and successes. In order to Make Yourself  one, we have to follow God’s own way, to be one so much so that he said, “To the weak I became weak,to win over the weak. I have become all things to all, to save at least some. (1Cor 9:22). God Himself became human like us, to be crucified and forsaken, reducing Himself to our level in order to show us his immense love. To make yourself one means we have to be poor in spirit, abandoning ourselves, of our own comfort when we are called to help someone in need. It means dying to ourselves, to our own ego and to very material as well as spiritual attachments. When we are empty , we are able to approach everyone with willingness to learn and to be the recipient of the goodness of others, to empty ourselves of our own prejudices, our own worries and concerns. It will further allow us  to listen, to understand, and be able to enter into the hearts and minds of other people.

5.    LOVING JESUS IN EVERYONE


Evangelical love means we see Jesus in our neighbor. In describing the last judgment: “For I was hungry and you gave me food, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink… Then the righteous will answer him,”Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you drink…?  Amen, I say to you, whatever you did for one of these least brothers of mine, you did for me. (Mt. 25:35,40). If Christ is present in everyone,we cannot show any discrimination or prefer some people over others because of nationality,social condition,personal attributes or wealth. Christ  is behind every person,he is in each one. 

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